Self Confidence Tips

Social anxiety cripples the lives of many people and can make it impossible for them to speak in public or even interact with others in large social settings. While some people experience it to this kind of devastating effect, many many more find they have social anxiety to a lesser degree which can make them feel unconfident in the work place or among friends. It can then prevent them from fulfilling their potential in their careers or in their love lives.

Often social anxiety comes down to a feeling that they are somehow inadequate or that what they say isn’t worth as much as what others say. People opt not to speak because they worry that what they say will be ‘stupid’. At the same time they worry that they might stutter or stumble over their words and so not get their point across properly. That people will figure out that they’re nervous and get bored waiting for them to t-t-t-t-talk…
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One sure fire way to improve your self esteem is by exercising. The obvious reason for this is that you’ll improve your physique which will make you more attractive and more capable. You won’t feel physically threatened by other people as you’ll be strong enough to deal with attackers (men more than women, but even for women a bit of extra strength can be reassuring), you’ll win respect from others who are impressed by your new shape or envious even (you’ll find that you become a font of knowledge for anyone who wants to do the same), you’ll be better at sports and all physical activities and you’ll be more attractive to the opposite sex.

 That’s not all exercise is about however. If you train regularly you’ll soon find that it effects you in ways that you wouldn’t have expected. Training your body is something you can do regularly that has a visible and practical effect. Over time you will see that you’re directly controlling an aspect of yourself. Every time you go to the gym you come away a little bit better than you were before you go in and that’s one productive thing you’ve done that day. Even more, when you’re in the gym, trying to run an extra mile on the treadmill or lift an extra 10kg on the bench press, you’re testing yourself and coming out better. You’re challenging yourself and overcoming it on a daily basis – over time you’ll learn that you can do the same in any aspect of your life. Working out is a truly life affirming activity that can help you to grow both mentally and literally physically.
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The steps we covered in part 1 might seem a bit extreme though, and if it’s just your facial features you’re concerned about there’s still a lot you can achieve without resorting to surgery. Firstly, make sure you get a hair cut somewhere nice and one that fits the shape of your head. The squarer your jaw the more rounded a cut you’ll need and vice versa as a general rule. If you’re male you also need to think about facial hair, and while this is generally a fashion mistake it can sometimes really improve your looks – just look at Rowan Atkinson in Mr Bean compared to the same guy in Blackadder. You might also want to try dying your hair to see if another color suits you better.

If you’re a woman you have the benefit of being able to enhance your features with makeup (men, skip this paragraph). This means using foundation to cover up spots and blemishes and blusher to bring a bit more color to your cheeks. Often those who are a little shy will try to dress and apply makeup minimally so as not to draw attention to themselves, however this can end up making you look bland or as though you’re ‘not trying’. If you get professional advice on how to do your makeup you can maximize your good features and up your sex appeal even if you can’t aid your natural beauty. A professional from somewhere like ‘color me beautiful’ will tell you not only which colors suit you best, but also what your best features are. Normally you will be told to focus on either your eyes or your lips, depending on which is your stronger feature, and then apply the heaviest amount of makeup here to draw the eyes to your assets and away from your flaws. So if you have nice lips you might be advised to use some bright red lipstick to make them look fuller and more inviting, while if you’re strongest feature is your eyes you might be recommended to use a heavy eye shadow or eye liner to make them stand out. Generally it’s best not to go to heavy on both as you can end up looking like a porn star or as though you’re just trying too hard, and while your colors should be bold they shouldn’t look as though you’re wearing face paint – natural looking colors that suit your skin tone are to be advised.
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